UPDATE

An update on where I’ve been.

I would like to thank everyone for their continued support of ‘The Art of Overthinking’. As you may have noticed, I haven’t posted anything in a while – this is because I have been collaborating on a project with a good friend of mine, Robyn. It has taken precedent, as the project in question in a new blog, entirely separate from ‘The Art of Overthinking’.

The new blog, which is independent of this particular blog, is called ‘Bringing Justice‘, and hopes to shed light on issues surrounding Justice, including: Derek Bromley, Aboriginal/ Indigenous Deaths in Custody, the Black Lives Matter movement, and general issues of injustice within Australia and beyond.

I would very much encourage you to take the time to have a look at ‘Bringing Justice‘, and hope it can be a way for you to learn more, start a conversation, or simply see a different perspective. I will be focusing more energy into ‘Bringing Justice‘ for the time being, while also working to re-model ‘The Art of Overthinking’ to still be an active site.

Although I have had a lot of fun with ‘The Art of Overthinking’, I believe that the current issues our society (and world) face are much more pressing than my own musings. People of Colour are suffering and dying everyday at the hands of a system that is racist, suppressive and unfair in the extreme. Injustices are occurring more frequently, rather than less frequently, and I believe that there needs to be a change. And I would like to be a part of that change, in any way that I can.

Much love,

Shayde

Quote Of The Day 29/03/2020

SUNDAY, 29/03/2020:

https://www.pinterest.com.au/pin/426575395956854782/

‘Only through action do words take meaning.’

– Freechild Institute

Book Review: The Casual Vacancy.

A review of: The Casual Vacancy – By J.K. Rowling.

SOurce: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Casual_Vacancy

TITLE:

The Casual Vacancy

AUTHOR:

J.K. Rowling

GENRE:
Fiction, Contemporary

PUBLISHED:

2012

PAGES:

503

GET IT HERE:

bookdepository.com

Overview:

The small town of Pagford appears, at least on the surface, to be an idyllic and almost predictable part of the world.

But things are not so idyllic, at second glance. After Councillor Barry Fairbrother dies suddenly and without warning, the town erupts into an all out drama-series. Pagford becomes a place of gossip, lies and selfishness as people jostle into position for Barry Fairbrother’s seat.

And while all of this is happening, Pagford’s citizens shine through in the undercurrent, with the author, J.K. Rowling, showing the reader a side to every-day life that often gets swept under the rug and forgotten about.

My Thoughts:

‘The Casual Vacancy’ was J.K. Rowling’s first publication after the ‘Harry Potter’ series. In it, Rowling breaks away from the magic by plonking the reader head-first into a completely commonplace town, with seemingly dull issues, such as the upcoming Pagford election.

However, it soon becomes apparent that while the election is on the forefront, it is the undercurrent of activity from every-day citizens that is of most interest.

The story of Pagford is innocuous at first glance, and yet, it somehow gives the reader a grim taste of reality. ‘The Casual Vacancy’ is a story of the every-day cruelty and selfishness of human-kind, wrapped up neatly as the town of Pagford, with a bow and on show, like a goldfish in a bowl.

My Rating: 5/5

Top Talks (#1): The Anatomy of Trust – Brené Brown

Discover a new ‘Top Talk’ weekly with The Art of Overthinking!

Hello there!

I’ve been listening to (and watching) a lot of Ted Talks, Podcasts and Lectures recently… And the one thing I realized was that I really wanted to share some of the key points some of these incredible people have to say!

So I decided to start a weekly section on my blog titled ‘Top Talks’, where I can share with you some of the great things I’ve heard and learned from an array of fascinating, intelligent and diverse people.

It is truly mind-boggling to me how incredibly talented our world is, so I thought doing a ‘show-and-tell’ of the speeches I come across would be a fun way to get more people thinking about issues they may not have thought about before, or see things from another’s perspective.

So without further ado:

WHO IS BRENE BROWN?

Brené Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston, with a PhD in Social Work.

Brené has spent her career studying courage, vulnerability, shame and empathy, as well as being an author of five #1 New York Times bestsellers and giving multiple talks on her research.

Today, I’m writing about Brené’s talk on ‘The Anatomy of Trust’.

source: https://www.google.com/search?q=brene+brown&rlz=1C1GCEA_enAU846AU847&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwjHmMqTtMzjAhWCfysKHZ_BDM8Q_AUIEigC&biw=1745&bih=807#imgrc=-al8YnXqDvf_1M:

The Anatomy of Trust – Brené Brown

What I got out of this ‘Top Talk’:

This ‘Top Talk’ was all about trust. How it is gained, how it is lost, and what it is. The main ideas I got from listening to this talk were the ‘B.R.A.V.I.N.G’ acronym and her analogy that likened trust to a marble jar. I loved this talk and how true the concepts were to me!

THE MARBLE JAR:

Brené explained trust by comparing it to a marble jar from her daughter’s school. When the class is good, marbles go in the jar. When the class is bad, marbles come out.

In the same way, when people do little things to affirm their trustworthiness, marbles go into our ‘jar’. When they betray our trust, marbles come out.

Our ‘Marble Jar Friends’ are those that have filled our jar over time: people we know we can trust.

So how does Brené define trust?

THE B.R.A.V.I.N.G ACRONYM:

Below are the seven ‘elements’ of trust that Brené goes through (these are on her website, too!):

BOUNDARIES:

You respect my boundaries, and when you’re not clear about what’s okay and not okay, you ask. You’re willing to say no.

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RELIABILITY:

You do what you say you’ll do.

At work, this means staying aware of your competencies and limitations so you don’t over promise and are able to deliver on commitments and balance competing priorities.

ACCOUNTABILITY:

You own your mistakes, apologize, and make amends.

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VAULT:

You don’t share information or experiences that are not yours to share.

I need to know that my confidences are kept, and that you’re not sharing with me any information about other people that should be confidential.

INTEGRITY:

You choose courage over comfort.

You choose what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy. And you choose to practice your values rather than simply professing them.

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Red Corded Telephone on White Suraface

NON-JUDGMENT:

I can ask for what I need, and you can ask for what you need. We can talk about how we feel without judgment.

GENEROSITY:

You extend the most generous interpretation possible to the intentions, words, and actions of others.

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And finally

Dr. Brown shares these ideas not only for trusting others, but for cultivating self-trust. Below are some questions she came up with to assess our level of self-trust:

B:

Did I respect my own boundaries?

Was I clear about what’s okay and what’s not okay?

R:

Was I reliable?

Did I do what I said I was going to do?

A:

Did I hold myself accountable?

V:

Did I respect the vault and share accordingly?

I:

Did I act from my integrity?

N:

Did I ask for what I needed?

Was I non-judgmental about needing help?

G:

Was I generous towards myself?