Quote Of The Day 09/12/2019

MONDAY, 09/12/2019:

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‘History is, strictly speaking, the study of questions; the study of answers belongs to anthropology and sociology.’

– W.H. Auden

Quote Of The Day 20/11/2019

WEDNESDAY, 20/11/2019:

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‘He will win whose army is animated by the same spirit throughout all its ranks.’

– Sun Tzu

 

Quote Of The Day 13/11/2019

WEDNESDAY, 13/11/2019:

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‘You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.’

– Dale Carnegie

Quote Of The Day 01/11/2019

FRIDAY, 01/11/2019:

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‘Lottery: A tax on people who are bad at math.’

– Ambrose Bierce

Top Talks (#8): Everything You Know About Addiction is Wrong – Johann Hari

Welcome to week eight of ‘Top Talks’ – a segment where I do a show-and-tell of my favourite speeches, talks or lectures.

Hello there!

Welcome to week eight of ‘Top Talks’ – a segment where I do a show-and-tell of my favourite speeches, talks or lectures.

I am a strong believer in continuous improvement – which to me, means finding and listening to people who have an array of different values, beliefs and ideas, and sharing them with others!

So…

WHO IS JOHANN HARI?

Johann Hari is a published author, with his two books ‘Lost Connections: Why You’re Depressed and How to Find Hope‘ and ‘Chasing the Scream: The First and Last Days of the War on Drugs‘ making the New York Times Best-Sellers List.

Hari graduated from Cambridge University, studying Social and Political Services. He has written for many major newspapers, including The Huffington Post and The Independent.

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Everything You Know About Addiction is Wrong – Johann Hari

What I got out of this ‘Top Talk’:

Johann Hari’s TED Talk was significant for me. I have experienced first hand how easy it is to fall into a vicious cycle of addiction, and have watched loved ones suffer the consequences. Addiction is something that anyone can fall victim to, and it has a domino effect on the people trying to support, help or even find empathy for someone who is struggling with dependency-related issues.

There have been countless news articles, reports and studies on drug epidemics in all corners of the world, from crack cocaine, methamphetamine and more controversially (and prevalent), prescription medication. Johann Hari highlights some of the ideas we potentially need to unlearn about addiction, as well as shedding light on some of the reasons people become drug-dependent.

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THE IDEA IN OUR HEADS OF ‘ADDICTS’ NEEDS TO CHANGE

Sometimes it’s easy to pass drug-addicted people off as ‘junkies’, ‘low-lives’, ‘bludgers’ or ‘criminals’. While these words can be used to describe some people suffering from addiction, it would be incorrect to assume this is the majority. In fact, it is far more common for people to be addicted to prescription medication than to banned illicit substances. And although it is appealing to write off all addicts as a waste of space, punish them, send them to jail and let society make them suffer to serve as a deterrent, Hari offers an insight into why that makes the issue worse, rather than better.

Hari suggests that addiction shouldn’t even be called addiction at all. He delved into the idea that perhaps the ‘chemical hooks’ we’re used to hearing about that cause addiction aren’t actually there.

Hari gives the example of war veterans who used heroin daily during combat, then coming home and not being addicts. Or, closer to home, how your grandma may have hip surgery and take heavy medication (stronger and purer than heroin you find on the streets) for the pain for long periods of time, but not become an addict.

So if ‘chemical hooks’ were real, why isn’t my grandma an addict? She’s had more joint replacements in her 98 years on Earth than most people I know. And that was the question scientists asked too. And it has more to do with our environment than anything else.

Hari speaks about Professor Bruce Alexander, and the experiment he conducted to prove his point. In the experiment, a rat is placed in a cage and given two water bottles – one with water, one with cocaine or heroin. The rat almost always chooses the drug-laced water, slowly killing itself.

But then, the professor conducted the same experiment, except this time he placed lots of fun things for the rat to do in its cage – toys to play with, cheese to eat, tunnels etc. and most importantly, the rat has friends. And in this cage, the rats almost never drink the drug-water.

Hari suggests that addiction is about your ‘cage’. He suggest that addiction should be called bonding. Humans have a desire to bond – usually with each other. But when we are lonely, isolated and marginalized, we bond with other things that make us feel better. Like gambling, pornography or drugs.

WHAT DOES MY ‘CAGE’ LOOK LIKE?

The second thing this talk did for me was make me look around at my ‘cage’. What was I bonded to? What made me feel better? And it became crystal clear to me that ‘addiction’ as a word doesn’t shine light on the loneliness of people’s lives in the same way that other words like ‘bonding’ do.

Where human bonds fail, artificial bonds form.

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The rise in drug use mirrors the rise in loneliness expressed by so many people, implicitly and explicitly. The people seeking affirmation in the form of ‘likes’ on Facebook. The amount of time people spend trying to look richer, thinner, stronger and smarter than others – all at the cost of real human connection.

Disconnection is everywhere we look. So who are we turning away, labeling them as ‘addicts’, instead of offering connection? Are there people in your life that are seeking connection in an unhealthy form – and if so – are you offering a healthier one?

… the opposite of addiction is not sobriety. The opposite of addiction is connection.

Johann Hari

Hopeless Musing #28

Losing Time.

 

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LOSING TIME.

One minute I’m here, the next minute I’m there. Except from this minute to the next, has thirty more in between that I can’t recall.

I lose time from time to time, when I don’t think I do at all. Sometimes it’s minutes, other times it’s months. Sometimes I remember, sometimes I do not.

Depending who I am, depends on where I am. Depending on who appears, depends on what I know. Depending on who comes out to play, depends on how I act.

I never used to think about it, until I had to think about it. When I realized the different ‘parts’ of me know different parts of me. 

Top Talks (#2): The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination – J.K. Rowling

Welcome to week two of ‘Top Talks’ – a segment where I do a show-and-tell of my favourite speeches, talks or lectures.

Hello there!

Welcome to week two of ‘Top Talks’ – a segment where I do a show-and-tell of my favourite speeches, talks or lectures.

I am a strong believer in continuous improvement – which to me, means finding and listening to people who have an array of different values, beliefs and ideas.

So

WHO IS J.K. ROWLING?

For those of you who may have been living under a rock for the last decade or two, J.K. Rowling is one of the most successful authors of all time – known primarily for her famous ‘Harry Potter’ book series.

But, she wasn’t always successful. In fact, J.K. Rowling suffered many setbacks early on in her writing career – being turned down by several publishers before ‘Harry Potter’ became a household name.

Today, I wanted to share J.K. Rowling’s Harvard University speech, which touches on overcoming failure.

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The Fringe Benefits of Failure, and the Importance of Imagination – J.K. Rowling

What I got out of this ‘Top Talk’:

This ‘Top Talk’ was all about failure. But not just failure. The benefits of failure. The main idea I got from this talk was that everyone has a different idea of what failure looks like, and that failure provides lessons that success never can.

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FAILURE IS PERSONAL

Failure looks different to everyone. Some people are motivated by a fear of failure. Some people think failure is the be-all and end-all of their life’s work.

Whatever you do, whoever you are, failure will look different. And that’s okay. But failure is not all bad. Failure provides an opportunity for growth, personal acceptance and strengthening of character.

THE FRINGE BENEFITS OF FAILURE

J.K. Rowling is as successful as they come. But she has also had times where she described her entire life as a failure on ‘an epic scale’. She talks about her short-lived marriage, her unemployment and her poverty, all while raising a child alone.

J.K. Rowling describes herself in her speech as a someone who was a failure. She talks about a time where she believed she was ‘the biggest failure she knew’. So how did she overcome her failures?

J.K. describes failure as ‘stripping away’ the inessentials. In other words, there was no need to live up to anyone’s expectations – she simply did what she was truly passionate about. In fact, she says that if she had succeeded in other areas of her life, she might never have found her calling and wrote the Harry Potter series in the first place. Talk about finding a silver lining!

When we let go of our fear of failure, and dare to be vulnerable and authentic, we become the best versions of ourselves.

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Failure isn’t pretty and it isn’t fun – and we are all inevitably going to fail at something in our lifetime. It may be a big failure, it may not be. But understanding that life goes on regardless, and that we can bounce back, is an incredible motivator.

We can go our whole lives, scared to fail, or we can fail, and come out on the other side wiser, stronger and as J.K. Rowling rightly says: ‘secure in your ability to survive’.

It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.

J.K. ROWLING

Quote Of The Day 10/01/2019

THURSDAY, 10/01/2019:

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‘It’s hard to believe in coincidence, but it’s even harder to believe in anything else.’

– John Green

10 Wisdom Filled Quotes to Live By in 2019

Hands up, who’s made a New Year’s Resolution before..?

Hands up, who’s made a New Year’s Resolution before..?

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Yep. Pretty much all of us.

 

2019 is approaching faster than we care to realise. And as with every New Year, come the Resolutions:

 

‘I’m going to do this.’

‘I’m going to lose this amount of weight.’

‘I’m going to save this amount of money.’

‘I’m going to buy a house.’

‘I’m going to go to the gym more.’

 

Etc. etc. etc. …

 

And all of these are great resolutions. In theory. But as the year progresses (and I’m as guilty as the next person), these resolutions tend to get lost in the hustle and bustle of our day-to-day lives.

And most of the time, these resolutions tend to be based on things we want, rather than things we need. They’re usually based around the vanity in us as humans. They’re meant to be about aspiring to be a better person, but the trouble is, being a better person isn’t about losing weight, or buying a house, or going to the gym more.

 

Being a better person is going to mean digging a little deeper.

 

So I decided to share a few of my favourite quotes, to help inspire you to be a better person, from the inside out, rather than the other way around:

 

NUMBER ONE:

‘Everyone you meet always asks if you have a career, are married, or own a house as if life was some kind of grocery list. But no one ever asks you if you are happy.’

– Heath Ledger

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NUMBER TWO:

‘Wealth consists not in having great possessions, but in having few wants.’

– Epictetus

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NUMBER THREE:

‘When I was 5 years old, my mother told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.’

– John Lennon

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NUMBER FOUR:

‘Enjoy the little things, for one day you may look back and realise they were the big things.’

– Robert Brault

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NUMBER FIVE:

‘It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all – in which case, you fail by default.’

– J.K. Rowling

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NUMBER SIX:

‘Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it.’

– Dennis P. Kimbro

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NUMBER SEVEN:

‘Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.’

– Dr. Seuss

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NUMBER EIGHT:

‘See the world as it is, not as you wish it would be.’

– E. Lockhart

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NUMBER NINE:

‘Ask yourself this question – ‘Will this matter a year from now?’.’

– Richard Carlson

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NUMBER TEN:

‘When I stand before God at the end of my life, I would hope that I would not have a single bit of talent left and could say – ‘I used everything you gave me.’.’

– Erma Bombeck

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Let’s make 2019 a year of gratitude, giving, loving and caring!